Wngati anagonana ndi munthu asanalowe m’banja, akakamizidwa kum’kwatira

Baibulo limanena kangapo kuti ngati mwagonana ndi munthu musanalowe m’banja, mudzakhala okwatirana ndipo mwamangiriridwa kwa iye kwa moyo wonse.

Chifukwa chake mwamuna adzasiya atate wake ndi amake, nadzaphatikizana ndi mkazi wake, kuti akhale thupi limodzi. ( Genesis 2:24 )

Ngati mwamuna anyengerera namwali wosatomeredwa ndi kugona naye, amtenge kukhala mkazi wake mwa kulipira mtengowo. ( Eksodo 22:16 )

Munthu akapeza namwali amene sanatoledwe kupaliridwa ubwenzi, namtenga, nagona naye, nagwidwa, mwamuna wakugona ndi mwana wamkaziyo azipatsa atate wake masekeli makumi asanu, namkwatira akhale mkazi wake, chifukwa anamlefula. ; sangamukane kwa moyo wake wonse. ( Deuteronomo 22:28-29 )

Dkudzera mu kugonana anthu awiri amakhala thupi limodzi

Mulungu anangofuna kuti anthu azigonana amuna awiri okha, amene samayeneranso kulekana. Mwa kugonana musanalowe m’banja, munthu amamaliza ukwati. Chifukwa ndi mmene anthu awiri amakhalira thupi limodzi, zimene Baibulo limanena kuti sitiyenera kulekana.

Ndipo khamu lalikulu la anthu linamtsata Iye, ndipo Iye anawachiritsa kumeneko. Pamenepo Afarisi anadza kwa Iye, namuyesa, nanena, Kodi nkuloledwa kuchotsa mkazi pa chifukwa chiri chonse? Koma anayankha nati kwa iwo: “Kodi simunawerenge kuti Iye amene adalenga iwo [anthu] adalenga iwo pachiyambi, mwamuna ndi mkazi, nati: “Chotero mwamuna adzasiya atate wake ndi amake, nadzadziphatika kwa mkazi wake; ndipo awiriwo adzakhala thupi limodzi”? Chotero salinso awiri, koma thupi limodzi. Chimene Mulungu anachimanga pamodzi, munthu asachilekanitse. ( Mateyu 19:2-6 )

Skukhala ndi anthu angapo ndizopanda ulemu

N’zochititsa chidwinso kuti Mulungu analamula ansembe kukwatira anamwali, osadetsedwa amene anali asanagone.

Azitenga namwali kukhala mkazi wake. Asatenge mkazi wamasiye, kapena wosiyidwa, kapena wochititsidwa manyazi, kapena wachigololo; koma adzitengere namwali wa anthu a mtundu wake akhale mkazi wake, kuti angaipse mbeu yake mwa anthu a mtundu wake. Pakuti Ine, Yehova, ndimamuyeretsa. ( Levitiko 21:13-15 )

Kuchokera m’ndime iyi yokha mukuona kuti Mulungu amatcha akazi amene anagonana ndi amuna angapo kuti “osalemekezeka”. Komabe, zimenezi sizikutanthauza kuti simungakhale wolemekezeka. Chifukwa chakuti munthu amene wagonana ndi anthu osiyanasiyana kangapo m’mbuyomo akhoza kukhululukidwa machimo awo kudzera m’Chipangano Chatsopano, chimene chinapangidwa ndi Yesu. Kwalembedwanso kuti Mulungu sadzakumbukiranso machimo a munthu woteroyo. Zoonadi, izi zikuphatikizaponso kusiya tchimolo ndi kusalichitanso.

Koma ili ndi pangano limene ndidzapangana ndi nyumba ya Israyeli atapita masiku aja, ati Yehova: ndidzaika cilamulo canga m’mitima yao.
ndipo lemba ilo m’maganizo mwawo, ndipo ndidzakhala Mulungu wawo, ndipo iwo adzakhala anthu anga; ndipo palibe amene adzaphunzitse mnansi wake kapena mbale wake, ndi kunena, Mumdziwe Yehova; pakuti onse adzandidziwa;
kuyambira wamng'ono kufikira wamkuru, ati Yehova; chifukwa ndikufuna kuti ndiwakhululukire zolakwa zawo, ndipo sindidzakumbukiranso machimo awo! ( Yeremiya 31:33-34 )

Yesu adanena naye, Inenso sindikutsutsa. Pitani, ndipo kuyambira tsopano musachimwenso! ( Yohane 8:11 )

Skale ndi anthu oposa mmodzi ndi dama

Zimene Baibulo limanenanso momveka bwino n’zakuti dama, kapena kuti chiwerewere, ndi tchimo ndipo liyenera kupeŵedwa mulimonse mmene zingakhalire. Nachi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zambiri:

Thawani dama! Tchimo lili lonse munthu akalichita liri kunja kwa thupi; koma wadama amachimwira thupi lake la iye yekha. ( 1 Akorinto 6:18 )

Komabe, tanthauzo lenileni la dama silikuwoneka kuti silikudziwika kwa anthu ambiri. Chifukwa dama linkachitika mwa kugonana ndi anthu oposa mmodzi. Ndiko kuti, ngati mwagonana ndi munthu, ndiye kuti musiye, ndiyeno nthawi ina pambuyo pake kugonana ndi munthu wina kapena kuchita zachiwerewere zina monga kukumbatirana, mukuchita dama komanso chigololo. Komanso sikungakhale bwino kugona pabedi limodzi musanalowe m’banja. Chifukwa Baibulo limanena kuti munthu akamagonana asanalowe m’banja amakhala atapanga kale pangano la ukwati. Motero kugonana kunja kwa m’banja si m’Baibulo. Izi zitha kuwoneka bwino m'ndime yotsatirayi ya m'Baibulo mu Malaki 2, popeza Mulungu adalola kusakhulupirika pambuyo pa kugonana koyamba, als chisudzulo designated!

Pakuti Yehova anali mboni pakati pa iwe ndi mkazi wa ubwana wako;
amene mwakhala osakhulupirika tsopano;
ngakhale iye ndi bwenzi lako ndi mkazi wapangano lako!
Ndipo kodi sanawapanga iwo kukhala amodzi ndi okondana naye mu mzimu?
Ndipo kodi munthu ayenera kuyesetsa kuchita chiyani?
Kwa mbewu yaumulungu!
Choncho samalani mu mzimu wanu
ndipo palibe amene adzakhala wosakhulupirika kwa mkazi wa ubwana wake!
Chifukwa ndimadana ndi kusudzulana
atero Yehova, Mulungu wa Israyeli,
ndi kuphimba mwinjiro wake ndi mphulupulu;
ati Yehova wa makamu;
Choncho chenjerani mu mzimu wanu
ndipo musakhale achinyengo!

( Malaki 2:14-16 )

InePalibe maubwenzi kapena zibwenzi m'Baibulo

M’Baibulo, mawu onga akuti “ubale” kapena chibwenzi kunja kwa ukwati sapezeka nkomwe. Izi zonse ndi machitidwe opangidwa ndi anthu omwe alibe chochita ndi Baibulo. Mulungu sanafune kuti mukhale ndi “abwenzi” angapo m’moyo wanu. Mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kupanga pangano losatha pamaso pa Mulungu ndi kukhala okhulupirika kwa wina ndi mnzake. Izi zimagwiranso ntchito pakugwirana musanalowe m'banja.

Ndipo pa nthitiyo anaitenga mwa Adamu, Yehova Mulungu anapanga mkazi, nabwera naye kwa iye. Ndipo anati munthuyo, Uyu ndiye pfupa la pfupa langa, ndi mnofu wa mnofu wanga; adzatchedwa mwamuna; pakuti wachotsedwa kwa munthu. Chifukwa chake mwamuna adzasiya atate wake ndi amake nadzaphatikizana ndi mkazi wake, kuti akhale thupi limodzi. ( Levitiko 21:13-15 )

SKutsiliza - Malinga ndi Baibulo, palibe kugonana musanakwatirane

Yankho la funso lakuti kaya kugonana musanalowe m’banja ndi mkangano wa m’Baibulo n’loonekeratu. Palibe kugonana musanakwatirane. Chifukwa kugonana musanalowe m’banja kumachititsa kuti mukhale okwatirana chifukwa munapangana kale chikondicho chifukwa chogonana. Komabe, mutapangana pangano limeneli, musaliphwanye kapena kulikhazikitsanso ndi munthu wina, chifukwa mukapanda kutero mudzakhala chiwerewere.

Koma sindine amene ndilamulira wokwatiwayo, koma Ambuye, kuti mkazi asasudzule mwamuna; koma ngati adasudzulidwa kale, akhale wosakwatiwa, kapena ayanjanitsidwenso ndi mwamuna wake. Koma mwamuna sayenera kukana mkazi. ( 1 Akorinto 7:10-11 )

Komanso amati: “Aliyense wosudzula mkazi wake, um’patse kalata wachilekaniro.” Koma ine ndikukuuzani kuti aliyense wosudzula mkazi wake, kupatulapo chifukwa cha dama, amuchititsa kuti achite chigololo. Ndipo amene akwatira wosudzulidwayo achita chigololo. ( Mateyu 5:31-32 )